Retirement Life
22 April 2026
When divorce rewrites retirement
Later life, or ‘grey’, divorce is no longer unusual in New Zealand. Around 3,000 people divorce later in life each year, accounting for about 40% of all divorces. While overall divorce numbers are falling, separations among people aged 50 and over have risen 7.1% over the past decade.
Retirement itself can expose cracks in a marriage, while children leaving home, financial pressure and changing social attitudes all play a role in these figures too. But while grey divorce may be more common, its impact on retirement planning - or on those already in retirement - can be severe, especially if action isn’t taken quickly.
Once a long term relationship ends, retirement plans built for two incomes, one household and shared assets often no longer stack up.
Women are hit hardest
The financial fallout from divorce tends to fall disproportionately on women. A 2020 Retirement Commission study found women’s incomes drop by around 29% after divorce, while men’s income is shown to increase by an average 15%. That often means women needing to work longer, retire later, or stretch smaller retirement savings across more years.
With less time to rebuild KiwiSaver or other retirement saving balances, fewer working years left, and rising health and housing costs ahead, recalibrating your financial plan early is critical. Women may find they have to continue working longer into retirement than they had hoped.
Build a post divorce budget straight away
One of the biggest shocks after divorce is the cost of living alone. Rent or mortgage payments, power, insurance and rates suddenly absorb a much larger share of a single income. Inflation also bites harder when there’s no second wage to cushion rising costs.
Create a new, realistic budget as soon as possible that reflects your solo income and expenses. Build or rebuild an emergency fund, even if it starts small. Online tools like Sorted’s budget planner can help you clarify what’s sustainable for you.
Remember: if retirement is still a few years away, your budget needs to hold not just today, but well into older age, when healthcare and housing costs typically rise. If you're already in retirement, you're likely dealing with a fixed income making this more challenging.
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Rebuild your retirement plan sooner than later
Divorce forces a full financial reset. Everything from retirement age to income expectations needs to be rethought. This reset is needed whether you are close to, or in retirement already.
This is especially important for women, who often face lower lifetime earnings and KiwiSaver balances due to things like career breaks. Delay only compounds the problem. But even modest changes, like increasing KiwiSaver contributions if you are still earning or adjusting investment settings, can make a meaningful difference over time.
If you are in retirement, products like Lifetime Retirement Income and Lifetime Home can be useful to consider as you rebuild your retirement plan and can offer greater certainty and security for your retirement income.
What happens to KiwiSaver after divorce?
KiwiSaver is often the second largest asset after the family home.
Under the Property (Relationships) Act, KiwiSaver contributions made during the relationship (and investment gains on those contributions) are treated as relationship property and are usually split 50:50.
You and your former partner can agree to offset KiwiSaver with other assets of equal value – such as cash or home equity – but both parties must agree. Each option has long‑term consequences, so it’s important to understand the trade‑offs.
If you’re able to, increasing KiwiSaver contributions or other pension savings post‑divorce can help rebuild retirement savings and make the most of compounding over time.
If you've already started drawing down on, or withdrawn, your KiwiSaver savings, this is treated differently and may be considered as savings. But this depends on a number of factors such as when and how it was withdrawn and how it was used, so getting advice will be important.
Update legal documents and insurance immediately
After a divorce, update your will and enduring powers of attorney straight away. Former partners are often still named, and inaction can have unintended consequences years later.
Review all insurance policies – especially life, health and income protection. Joint policies may need splitting, replacing or altering to reflect your new situation.
Supporting adult children - without sacrificing yourself
It’s natural to want to protect your kids financially. But this shouldn’t come at the expense of your own retirement security. Focus first on a fair asset split between parents, then look for ways to support children later if you can afford it. It can be beneficial to put this idea on hold for now.
Get financial advice alongside legal advice
Divorce decisions are often made under stress, fatigue and emotion. A lawyer helps finalise the settlement, but a financial adviser helps ensure it works for the rest of your life.
This is particularly important when weighing up whether to keep the family home, rebuild KiwiSaver, or reshape your retirement timeline. Good advice now can prevent costly mistakes later and help you move forward with more confidence.
The advice given here is general and does not constitute specific advice to any person.
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Written by:
Sonia Speedy
Sonia Speedy has been a journalist for over 20 years, working in newspapers, magazines and radio. She also runs an online platform for parents at familytimes.co.nz. She lives on the Kāpiti Coast with her young family and loves writing stories that help make people's lives easier.
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